1. Are you loyal to your spouse? It is terrible when one of the partners
is having extramarital relations.
2. Perhaps one of the partners offended or saddened the other in the
presence of others or privately?
3. Perhaps you don't overlook each other's possible weaknesses? Have
you been insensitive?
4. Does your family eat together at the table, praying together before
and after meals.
5. Are you sensitive to the struggle that one of you has outside of
the house and the other inside the house, so you can support each other
in the daily struggle, thus providing comfort to each other psychologically,
emotionally and physically.
6. Have you been overly demanding?
7. Perhaps you don't allow your spouse to go to church or to spiritual
gatherings or sermons?
8. Do you raise your children "with the teachings and the way of
the Lord?" Have you been only interested in their intellectual
education and ignoring the quality of their personality?
9. Do you take them to Church, to Holy Confession, to frequent Holy
Communion, to Sunday School? Do you teach them with words and your exemplary
virtues? Did you teach them to pray morning and night and also at mealtime
with seriousness and devotion?
10. Are you aware of what they read? Do you try and get them books or
magazines of ethical and religious content?
11. Are you aware of whom they associate with and whom they have as
friends?
12. Have you been taking them to sinful shows or movies and do you allow
them to watch television indiscriminately, timelessly and without parental
scrutiny?
13. Do you teach them humility and are you concerned that they dress
modestly?
14. Perhaps you curse them when they aggravate you? Perhaps you send
them to Hell?
15. Perhaps you had an abortion or you avoid childbearing?
16. Have you been unjust to your children with the distribution of your
property?
17. You, the husband, are you under the impression that child rearing
and development is the responsibility of your wife? You are also responsible
to read to them, to advise them and spend time with them so you can
give your wife a break, and also to let the children feel your presence
so that they can hold back and not get into trouble.
18. Perhaps you abuse them verbally and you scold them with indecent
words?
19. Do you love and honor each other's parents and relatives? Have your
parents or relatives been interfering in your home life and become the
reason for dissention and quarreling between you?
20. Perhaps you have been interfering in the home life of your child?
21. Perhaps your spouse is a blasphemer? Be patient and struggle so
that he can quit the evil of blasphemy?
22. Do you encourage your family to pray together.?